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From Stoicism to Broicism


In a world that once admired the Stoic virtues of Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus, we now find ourselves swimming in the shallow waters of broicism—a toxic cocktail of bravado, entitlement, and chest-thumping ignorance.

Stoicism, once a philosophy of inner strength and resilience, has been morphed into a gym-rat mantra where biceps speak louder than wisdom.

How did we get here? Besides Trump, I mean.

The original Stoics believed in controlling what you can, accepting what you can’t, and acting with virtue regardless of the outcome. They preached self-discipline, emotional restraint, and integrity. It was about conquering oneself, not the world.

But somewhere along the way, this message of inner mastery was hijacked by the “grindset” culture. And in its place, we got broicism—an ideology that says, “Just lift, bro, everything else is for suckers.”

Broicism takes the language of Stoicism—phrases like “stay hard” or “embrace the suck”—and uses them as a shallow veneer for performing masculinity. It reduces the deep, reflective nature of Stoic wisdom to a hollow focus on endurance for endurance’s sake.

The old Stoic would ask, “What is the best way to live?” The bro asks, “How much can you bench?”

In the realm of broicism, suffering is glorified, but not in the way Stoicism intended. Where the Stoic philosopher would see suffering as something to be transcended with dignity, the bro sees it as a badge of honor, proof of his toughness. He mistakes being numb for being strong.

One of the saddest aspects of this shift is that we now live in a society that mistakes loudness for strength and ego for wisdom. Don’t believe it? Check any political poll.We’ve traded the quiet discipline of a philosopher for the performative bravado of a bro, where vulnerability is weakness and shouting the loudest makes you the most right.

In the gym of life, broicism tells us we need to bulk up, max out, and push past all limits, forgetting that limits are what make us human. It turns reflection into repression and empathy into apathy.

The Stoic knew that living a good life required deep introspection, a careful study of what it means to be virtuous, and an acceptance that we are all fallible.

But the bro can’t admit he’s wrong. That would mean showing weakness. And weakness is the ultimate bro sin.

We’ve replaced philosophers with influencers, and deep thought with viral soundbites. You can’t box Stoicism into an Instagram post and slap a hashtag on it.

Stoicism requires quiet reflection, careful study, and the humility to know how little control we actually have. Broicism, on the other hand, wants you to believe you’re in control of everything, that your abs and your hustle are enough to ward off the chaos of life.

Marcus would spin his tomb.

Finding Your Secret Identity


In a world obsessed with curated social media personas and carefully crafted public images, the concept of a “secret identity” might seem like something out of a superhero comic.

But what if each of us has a hidden self, waiting to be discovered and embraced? Jung called it a shadow self, but his version is too dark.

This secret identity isn’t about donning a cape or mask. Rather, it’s about uncovering the authentic core of who we are beneath the layers of societal expectations, professional roles, and personal history.

The journey to find this true self is not unlike the hero’s quest in mythology. It requires courage, introspection, and a willingness to face our own shadows.

Here are some steps to begin this transformation:

  1. Question Your Assumptions: Start by examining the beliefs and values you hold. Are they truly yours, or have you inherited them from family, culture, or society? Challenge these assumptions and see what resonates at your core.
  2. Explore Your Passions: What activities make you lose track of time? What topics spark your curiosity and drive you to learn more? These passions often hold clues to your authentic self. Your kid self knew it instinctively.
  3. Embrace Your Quirks: Those odd little habits or interests you’ve always tried to hide? They’re part of what makes you unique. Instead of suppressing them, celebrate these quirks as part of your identity. Your psychological fingerprint.
  4. Face Your Fears: Often, our true selves are hidden behind walls of fear. By confronting these head-on, we can break down these barriers and reveal more of our authentic nature. Just naming them goes miles.
  5. Reflect on Your Story: Look back on your life experiences. What patterns emerge? What moments have shaped you? Your personal narrative holds important clues about your true identity.

Discovering your secret identity is not about becoming someone else. It’s about peeling away the layers of who you think you should be to reveal who you truly are.

The journey of can be challenging, even uncomfortable at times. You might encounter aspects of yourself that surprise or even unsettle you.

But the reward is immeasurable. By embracing your authentic self, you unlock a wellspring of creativity, confidence, and purpose.

You’ll find yourself making decisions that align with your true values, forming deeper connections with others, and experiencing a profound sense of fulfillment.

In a society that encourages conformity, choosing to unveil and embrace your secret identity is a radical act of self-awareness and courage. It’s a declaration that you value authenticity over approval, personal truth over societal expectations.

You ready? Your secret identity awaits, not in a phone booth or behind a mask, but within the depths of your own being.

Getting Out of Your Head by Thinking About It

We’ve all been there – caught in a spiral of anxious thoughts, burning with anger, or drowning in sadness. These intense emotions can feel all-consuming, as if they are our entire reality.

But what if there was a way to step back and gain some perspective?

Enter the art of mental otherization.

Your Brain: A Wrinkly Wet Computer

The next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by emotion, try this: picture your brain. Not the abstract concept of your mind, but the actual physical organ inside your skull. Visualize that wrinkly, wet, gray three-pound slab of meat with its spinal cord tail.

Now imagine that chunk of biological material getting all worked up.

Suddenly, your anxiety or anger might seem a bit… silly. After all, it’s just a piece of flesh throwing a biochemical tantrum. This mental shift can help you detach from the intensity of your emotions and view them more objectively.

Bringing Out Your Inner Animal

Another technique is animalization. Ask yourself: if my current emotional state were an animal, what would it be?

  • Anxiety might be a squirrel, darting about frantically and hoarding nuts for an imagined future catastrophe.
  • Anger could be a puffed-up cat, hissing and arching its back at a perceived threat.
  • Depression might manifest as a sloth, barely moving and seeing no point in expending energy.

By associating your feelings with an animal, you create a mental image that’s easier to observe and even find humor in. It’s much simpler to calm down a frightened squirrel or soothe an angry cat than it is to wrangle with abstract emotions.

Becoming the Narrator of Your Own Story

The third method is third-person personification. Instead of thinking “I am angry,” try “John is angry.” Or choose any name you like: “Beatrice is feeling anxious right now.”

This approach turns you into the narrator of your own emotional story.

Like a writer crafting a character, you can analyze Beatrice’s feelings with greater clarity and compassion. Why is she anxious? What would help her feel better?

By creating this narrative distance, you gain the ability to be both the protagonist experiencing the emotion and the author guiding the story to a more positive resolution.

The Power of Perspective

These techniques all share a common thread: they create psychological distance between you and your emotions.

This distance doesn’t invalidate your feelings, but it does give you room to breathe, reflect, and respond more thoughtfully.

So the next time you’re caught in an emotional storm, remember: you’re not your feelings. You’re the observer of a wrinkly brain, the caretaker of an expressive animal, or the author of your own tale.

After all, it’s hard to stay too wrapped up in your own head when you’re imagining it as a damp, grumpy blob of gray matter.